This month's pillar: Financial
The shame you carry around money is not yours. You inherited it.
Hey, Glow Getter,
I want to talk about something that does not come up enough in wellness spaces, even though it lives in almost every woman's body whether she realizes it or not.
Money shame.
Not just the embarrassment of a tight month or an overdraft. I mean the deeper, quieter shame. The kind that makes you feel guilty for wanting more. The kind that tells you that desiring financial ease is selfish, or greedy, or somehow in conflict with being a good person. The kind that has you apologizing for your prices, undercharging for your time, or giving away your energy for free because asking for what you are worth feels dangerous.
Where did those beliefs come from?
For most of us, they came long before we ever earned our first dollar. They came from watching the women in our families shrink their financial needs to keep the peace. They came from religious or cultural messages that tied money to morality and told us that wanting less was more virtuous. They came from a world that has historically kept women, and particularly women of color, at a distance from financial power and then convinced us that distance was deserved.
Those are not your beliefs. They are beliefs you absorbed. And there is a meaningful difference between the two.
What you absorbed can be examined. It can be questioned. And with time and intention, it can be released, not because you are forcing yourself to feel differently, but because you start to see clearly that the story was never really about you to begin with.
Wanting financial peace is not greed. It is one of the most loving things you can do for yourself and for every person who depends on you.
Your healing is not complete if it stops at the emotional or the physical. The financial layer is part of your whole life too. And you are allowed to want more of it without shame.
This month's gentle anchor
This month, when a money thought arrives that feels heavy or shameful, pause before you react to it. Ask yourself one question:
Did I choose this belief, or did I inherit it?
You do not have to have the answer right away. Just letting the question sit is enough to begin loosening what has been held too tightly for too long.
This month's self-care ritual
The Reframe: From Shame to Stewardship
This week, practice replacing one money shame thought with a stewardship statement. Stewardship means you are not chasing money for its own sake. You are caring for your resources the way you would care for anything that matters.
Here are a few examples to get you started:
Instead of "I am bad with money" try "I am learning to be a thoughtful steward of my resources."
Instead of "Wanting more is selfish" try "Financial stability is an act of care for myself and the people I love."
Instead of "I do not deserve to charge more" try "My time and expertise have real value and I am allowed to honor that."
You are not faking a new belief. You are practicing one until it has enough room to grow. That is how inherited stories get replaced with ones that actually belong to you.
I will be back in your inbox next month. Until then, be gentle with yourself around money. It is one of the most emotionally loaded topics a woman can sit with, and the fact that you are willing to look at it at all says something important about who you are becoming.
With warmth,
Dee D
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